Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life

I was in a difficult marriage for nearly 25 years. As one would expect, it was difficult to finally muster the strength to file for divorce and begin a new life. However, I found myself not really being free. There were many unresolved matters of my heart - dreams and expectations that had no closure. The book gave words to what I was feeling. These unresolved issues were hooks in me that held me back. "Moving On" gave me a step by step process of how to process my grief and dump (be rid of) the relationship baggage. I've read many books on how to move on and this book has been the best. Writing a relationship time line and letter (that is never sent) to the person you have moved on from are eye-opening exercises that help set you free. The book has you look realistically at your relationship and take ownership for your own stuff (rather than blaming the other person for all of the hurt). You forgive the other person as well as yourself in order for the process to be complete. I now buy this book to give to friends who are divorced but struggling with the past. Time we all make room for the love of our lives and be emotionally healthy for that person.

Two years ago, I divorced my husband of a year but we dated for 8 years. It was a very very difficult transition that were full of unhelpful advice such as the grass is greener on the other side. I tried as many others do after a serious breakup to find a replacement, did not help. I tried telling myself that I no longer loved him. Did not help! I also tried talking the ears off my friends about an obnoxious bastard he was, did not help either. I realized that I would never have a healthy relationship a day in my life until I got over this one. And that's how I found this book. I am telling you folks, this book does wonders!!!!! It helped me realized that my approach to completing (that's the word they use) my former relationship was done all wrong. It was ok to be sad. It was ok to cry. But it was not ok to deal with the sadness by pushing or substituting it with something else. It provided great steps on how to complete your previous relationships and provide great tips on how to get back in the dating scene. I cannot stress enough how much this book has helped me. And if you are still dealing with old or fresh heartaches, I recommend you get this book. You'll love it!

I liked the first half of the book. However, if you’re actually in professional therapy you’ll “Move On” before finishing the book. Tl;dr- accept your faults, forgive your past relationships, then be honest with yourself and others in the future. The end. 😊

Despite the peachy pinky cover splashed with hearts and the amusing subtitle which might lead you to think that this is a quick read and you're done like a poor pop-psych book, in actuality "Moving On" is a deep work, complete with a clear process and clear action steps, to unpack your emotional baggage which we have all built up over a lifetime of losses. Many people might not immediately think this book pertains to them unless they have just come out of a divorce or lost a spouse to death. However, who of us has not had an unrequited crush on someone? And what about those failed and ended love relationships in college? Didn't they leave their mark your heart in some manner either with additional armor or a tendency especially to "feel" things? This book and the Grief Recovery process from the Grief Recovery Institute aids each of us in unpacking our baggage, down from carrying a few steamer trunks to merely some carry-on and 1 checked bag (lol). So we are more fully equipped to attract, create, and sustain real intimacy in our relationships. Highly recommend. Get two copies. You will be doing the exercises with a partner/friend.

This book builds on the same process from Friedman and James’s Grief Recovery Handbook, adding insightful ideas for romantic relationships— past and future. I’ve used their grief recovery method for many years, and it changed my life, so I have bought many copies for other people and and was delighted to learn they’d also written this one.

I was eager for this book to arrive because I'm having trouble letting go, and because I got so much out of the authors' previous book, The Grief Recovery Handbook, and recommend it often. As I opened the box, I was stunned by the ugly cover. I know it's silly, but I'm an author myself and have had bad cover experiences. Then I tripped over the subtitle: Dump your relationship baggage... which was obviously made up by a marketing person who didn't realize that completing a relationship is a dedicated, deeply thoughtful process of self-discovery. To dump means "to get rid of, unceremoniously and irresponsibly"--exactly the opposite of the book's fundamental approach! Then there's the hokey style--almost a parody of a self-help book. I got past all of that and found a reworked summary of the same process advocated in the previous book, but specifically applied to relationships. It really helped me focus my attention on what I haven't finished, and where I've gotten stuck. I already feel much lighter. Their method is obviously built on vast experience. And the step-by-step approach makes it clear and accessible. Following their advice, after I finished the book, I wrote a completion letter: I forgive you for picking a bad editor. I apologize for being so critical. I appreciate your wisdom. Goodbye, I need to go now.

I do not remember reading this book as I have moved on and dumped my baggage.

HARD TO READ. WORDS GOOD, FEELINGS TOUGH.

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Just as the title says !

A good read.