For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood

I was searching for good books to help me parent my adult children. I gave this book a read (even though I don’t find my daughter difficult), and I’m glad I did. Dr. Herst laid out a clear picture of how to encourage healthy adult child-patent relationships. I came away with new expectations and new things to keep in mind for myself.

AN EXCELLENT RESOURCE!Wow! This book is a keeper! It has helped me immensely in my relationship with my adult daughters. So much of it is common sense. I appreciate that Dr. Herst chose to be truly authentic by sharing her own story. The other "cases" she shared, combined with her own, cover many possible scenarios in mother-daughter relationships. I meet many mothers who are having similar struggles as outlined in this book. In order to give them hope for their future, I give them a copy of this book. I keep buying more to have on hand. I don't want to lend my copy because I want to have it as a ready resource for myself. It is the kind of book that one can turn to time and time again for help and encouragement. I originally found it in a thrift store...was intrigued by the title and decided to buy it. I'm happy I did because it taught me how to be proactive and to be a better mother. It has since become one of myfavorite resources and I will keep on buying the used hardcover copies from Amazon!Thank you Dr. Herst!

Dealing with a suddenly 'difficult daughter' is personal for me and I've read at least four books from border personality-line disorder to Dr. Joshua Coleman's 'When Parents Hurt' trying to wrestle this one to the mat. There's some work to do in 'For Mothers of Difficult Daugthers' so be ready to write and answer some tough questions, including recalling your mother's relationship that bears weight on current events with your daugther. The five-star rating is for depth and content as well the fact there are few books dealing with the pain of being rejected by your own daughter. You get to vent (on paper, not to your daughter), cry, be validated as a good mother and move forward - if you want to.I'd recommend this book as preventative and immensely helpful in mending of the relationship with your daughter.

There are 3 kinds of difficult daughters, the dependent, the dissatisfied and the distant. That is the premise of this book. It details all three and explains how to navigate and remediate them with clear exercises and advice. I’d recommend it to anyone dealing with a strained mother/daughter adult relationship.

This book is an excellent resource for a mom who suddenly realized the difficulties in her relationship with her daughter were not going to be easy to repair. That mom is me! The author quickly explained how a good relationship can suddenly go south and it isn't always the daughter's fault. I am working on my issues and intrusive behavior/constant questioning of her personal life that I wasn't even aware I was doing. My daughter seems to be noticing that I am trying to change and is appreciating my efforts. The author has also opened my eyes to other issues in expectations placed on me by my daughter; I now feel that I have permission to say no when my daughter starts trying to manipulate me.I highly recommend this book for mothers who are desperate to repair a damaged relationship with her daughter.

I loved the book and it explains a lot about the difficult relationships that mothers and daughters have. Our relationship is born of her untreated mental illness so it did not click with me. I purchase another book that helped. This is a good book and gives you the reasons and possible explanations as what you may change and understand in both of you in order to gain back that relationship with your daughter. I would definitely recommend it for this reason.

Good book

Must read for all moms that feel they failed at parenting, I was going through a rough patch with my adult daughter for a while and the only boos out there pointed the finger in one direction. After reading this, I realized it’s not just me and that it’s possible to get pasts the ghosting and live a good life without wearing your heart on your shoulders. It’s not saying moms are perfect, but that daughters aren’t the victims every time.

I was looking for a book like Done With Crying something which was nuanced but perhaps put a new perspective on things.Sadly to me this was full of the same old simplistic ideas rehashed. Nothing new.If you were hoping to take away something from it, in my opinion on the most will be. “I’m not saying it’s your fault, but it’s your fault”Really complex solutions to your pain were not present. Ideas were dealt with in a couple of paragraphs in some cases.I came away feeling worse than I had for some time.

Theres always something to learn about life & children.

Wish I had had this years ago.....

Ok. I've given this book 4 stars because it is there to help mothers who have lost their way with their daughters - probably teenage or adult daughters. What i like is that it encourages the mother to reach out and try to find a way to communicate, when easy communication has died. It encourages the mother to listen instead of only seeing how the situation effects her. Perhaps there are some past issues which can be dealt with with a heartfelt apology. Perhaps there are boundary issues now...I bought this book from the perspective of the 'difficult daughter'. I don't think my mother would order it as she prefers to be the victim. If you are a mother and are buying this to patch up things with your daughter - you are already half way there!The only negative side seems to be that it spends a good amount of time explaining that the mother may well be blameless and thereby stressing the idea that the daughter is wrong or simply difficult. If the problems have come from a childhood incident, stressful household or neglect, the mother should now think about taking responsibility and apologise!